South African twins Owami and Olwethu Ono have opened up on their messy breakup to the man they both married. The twins who felt it was natural to tie the knot with Mzu Mzazi; a movie director they met during an audition, said their marriage started having cracks after they both got pregnant for him almost at same time.
Owami and Olwethu said they were emotionally and physically abused by the popular TV director who always reminded them that he gave them a roof.
“He poured diesel all over the house and threatened to burn the house down and kill us in the process. The children were screaming, everyone was scared,” Owami says. “During his rage, he couldn’t find matches – that’s how we survived.”
The twins also recounted how they met Mzu and got married to him at the age of 21. The TV Director was 46 at that time.
“We wanted him to mentor us. We wanted to be on TV.” Olwethu said they shared this with Mzu in a private meeting after they auditioned for a role in “Muvhango”, a movie he was directing. “We also told him we were virgins, we had never been with a man and intended to keep it that way,” Owami adds. “He saw an opportunity when we told him we want to get married to the same man and we thought, ‘sometimes in life you must take a risk to get some where in life’. We agreed to date him but made it clear we would not sleep with him until he introduced himself to our family.”
After their marriage, the twins found out that Mzu lied about being legally separated from his wife of 21 years. “We also found out he had 11 children with different women and not one child like he had told us” one of the twins said. “The secrets led to ugly fights. He lost his job during that time. We moved into a room at his family home in Soweto. When he had nothing, we all slept on one bed.” When Mzu got back onto his feet they moved to a three- bedroom house in Roodeport.
The sisters said after Mzu’s lies got busted, he accused them of not appreciating his good deeds. He also reminded them he took them out of poverty. They added that living with the TV Director for 9 years wasn’t as glamorous as it looked. “I went into the delivery room with a Muvhango t-shirt and no shoes,” Owami said.
On lessons learnt from their marriage which has already packed up, the twins who now work as fitness instructors and motivational speakers said they want their daughters to know who they will be marrying.
“We got into something we didn’t understand. We married a man we didn’t know,” Owami said. “We wanted to be loved and accepted. We didn’t know much about relationships. Now we’re grown women and know what we want.”